Tag: empowered communication
Reclaiming the Moment of Choice: Undoing the Programming That Says You’re Always Wrong
I spent so much of my life automatically responding to people—answering their questions, reacting to their comments, explaining myself in ways I didn’t even realize I was doing. If someone reached toward me in conversation, I reached back. If someone asked something of me, I answered—even when I didn’t want to. There was no pause,…
Let Your No Be No: Resisting the Urge to Overexplain
There’s a quiet power in saying “no” and letting it stand on its own. For most of my life, that power was elusive. Like many people—especially women (especially neurodivergent)—I felt compelled to explain every decision. I wasn’t just saying no, I was building a case. I’d lay out context, soften the edges, list my reasons,…
The Art of Non-Reaction
Not every situation requires a response. In fact, sometimes the most empowered communication move you can make is no move at all. I used to struggle with this one—big time. As someone who’s neurodivergent, I often felt compelled to respond to everything. My sisters used to joke that I was a last-word junkie. And, honestly,…
Be Your Own Witness
What if the peace you’re searching for isn’t out there—but in your ability to witness yourself? That idea has stayed with me ever since I first heard a quote that struck a deep chord: “If you are moved by the praise of others, you will also be moved by their criticism.” That one hit hard.…
Own Your Energy
So often we tell ourselves that our emotional state is justified: “They upset me.” “This circumstance ruined my day.” But the truth is, you—and only you—are responsible for the energy you bring. That doesn’t mean denying your emotions or pretending you’re fine when you’re not. It means taking ownership of what you’re carrying and how…
Forgiveness as a Powerful Tool for Freedom
Forgiveness is often seen as a gift we give to others, but in reality, it is a profound act of self-liberation. It is not simply about letting go of anger or resentment—it is about severing the energetic ties that bind us to the past, particularly to those who have wronged us. When we hold onto…
13 Keys for Empowered Communication
Communication is more than just the words we say—it’s how we show up in our relationships, how we set boundaries, and how we engage with the world. Empowered communication isn’t about controlling the narrative or convincing others to see things our way. It’s about standing in our truth with clarity, confidence, and grace while fully…
Energy as Currency: Spend It Like It Matters
When I was younger, I had what felt like endless energy—like a bank account that never ran dry. I gave freely, poured into others, juggled commitments, and rarely thought twice about the cost. It wasn’t until I hit burnout that I realized just how valuable that energy truly was. Suddenly, it was like I had…
Focus Colors Perception
What you look for is what you’ll see. It’s incredible how quickly our minds make meaning from what we choose to notice. This isn’t just a personal observation—it’s something psychology has backed for decades. The Pygmalion effect, for instance, illustrates how our expectations can shape outcomes, particularly when it comes to how we perceive and…
The Subtle Power of Shifting Energy
There’s a quiet yet profound power in how we interact with the energy around us. When we find ourselves in a situation that feels misaligned—perhaps witnessing gossip, conflict, or negativity—it can be tempting to feel powerless or compelled to react. But there’s another option: shifting the energy. This doesn’t require confrontation or even words. Instead,…
